Really not sure what changed. On one the XOA instances which was not working I deleted the entry in the Servers list for the problem host, and re-entered its address and the root userid+password. And then it worked.
Not entirely sure what problem was - I had some issues with one of the NICs on the host which may have given a disconnect between configured network etc. That problem now seems to be resolved.
PS: I can recall sitting down on a couple of occasions to write a post about an ongoing problem. First I do try to do my homework, looking up existing FAQs, noting down all relevant info - what options already tried. And then it starts working - so actually never submitting the post.
This time I got a bit further down the asking for Help route - but still a good outcome.